Pumpkin Pie! :D Lookin through the one and only comm. i love and found this. Its an essay by Jennifer, vision_gal
's friend, about H/Hr. It reminds me of why I love this ship! :)
"Harry and Hermione. How can you not ship them? They have such a deep connection. They communicate without words, argue without hurting, listen without judging, apologize without resenting, and support without expectation. It's almost, by definition, the opposite of siblings, and everything that Ron and Hermione are not. Not only are they growing as "people," but they are growing together. Ron is maturing as well, but away from the other two. His two greatest achievements happened on his own: becoming Prefect and winning the Quidditch Cup. Isn't it interesting that Ron + on his own = personal growth? Even his first real battle (at the DoM) was fought away from Harry and Hermione.
Those that ship R/Hr equate them with the "bickering couple" cliché and think the fighting is cute. I see it as hurtful and destructive. Ron has driven Hermione to tears more times than I can count, and not once have we ever seen him apologize. He comes from a family where the person who says the most hurtful thing wins the fight. This makes his behavior is understandable but hardly worth swooning over.
Hermione treats Ron badly as well. She can't say Voldemorte's name without stuttering, but will call Ron "pathetic" for his fear of it, all in the same breath. She's also constatnly reprimanding his behavior, opinions, and choices. I love Ron and Hermione, but hate who they are with each other. As for the UST: Ron and Hermione are both passionate people, but it's like they are passionate at each other, rather than for each other; and that just isn't the basis for a healthy relationship.
In the meantime, Harry and Hermione have been quietly building a love since First Year. Going along with and encouraging each other. Stroking egos and calming tempers (where R/Hr do exactly the opposite). I won't even go into all the times that they've shared knowing looks and finished each others sentences, or the times that Hermione's voice was his conscience, or the number of times that they've physically turned to each other for comfort or support - there are too many in cannon to list. However, if you tried to make a similar list for R/Hr it be pretty damn short. I can count on one hand the number of times that they have been tender with each other. Most of their interaction involves a lot of shouting and rude behavior.
The love H/Hr have for each other is directly proportional to the level of trust they have between them. While this trust was being built equally among the Trio in the first three books, it became exclusive to H/Hr in GoF, when Ron refused to believe that Harry (who has always hated his celebrity), wasn't an "attention seeking prat." Just as Ron said the most hurtful thing possible to Hermione at the Yule Brawl (accusing her of betraying Harry and not being good enough for someone like Krum), he accused Harry of the most hurtful thing possible; cashing in on his status as the Boy-Who-Lived (a cute little nickname which cost him is parents and any chance at a normal life). While Ron and Harry's friendship recovered, Hermione and Harry have continued, without fail, to have absolute faith in each other. Even when Harry was convinced she was wrong (about Sirius not being held at the DoM), he trusted her motives completely. Whereas the (R/Hr) UST that we hear so much about is all based on mistrust and petty jealousy.
So as Book 6 approaches, we have Ron learing that to be a man, he has to be his own man (Quidditch, the DoM); Harry learing that Hermione will never betray him (the first task) and that her instincts are impeccable (OotP: the Umbridge ruse, Sirius at the DoM, the veil); and Hermione learning that Harry needs her in his life (the Christmas scene at Grimmauld Place; and it's only gonna get worse cuz you know homegirl is gonna flip when she hears the prophacy).
Honestly, who in this world loves Harry like Hermione does? And who in this world is the only person that Harry has always been able to count on? The most important relationship in the books at this point is Harry and Hermione. There is a place for Ron, but it's not with Hermione; because nothing will come between her and her man." - Jennifer.
Ok I dont have any friends yet but if ever somebody mean prances his or her way into my lj and reads this, remember one thing. Respect my opinion. Dont bash my ship and I wont bash yours. Obviously, I am an H/Hr shipper (they belong together!) and I dont intend to change so you might as well leave if you beg to differ. Keep your fingers well away from that keyboard if you have the urge to say something nasty.
And to all the H/Hr shippers out there, keep going guys! Dont let bashers bring you down :) if you wanna friend me too, that'd be nice.. :D hee... *is a pathetic newbie*.